Monday, February 28, 2011


I'm going to try and keep myself in check but this post might get a little mean.  I don't intend for it but I'm in a funk today and its probably going to come through.

So my brother and his gf of over 3 years got engaged over the weekend!  I am seriously happy for them because they're great together and it's about time.  

But then I got an e-mail from her to the ladies of the family telling us that they are getting married in a civil ceremony on April 6.  A mere 6 weeks before my wedding.  AND they're having my Aunt do the ceremony, which C & I are not doing.  (My aunt is a reverend.)

We considered her but ultimately decided that it would be too emotional for her and didn't want to run the risk of her crying or gushing during the ceremony.

I can't help but feel this stupid mix of emotions ranging from, "Way to make me look bad" to "Way to steal my thunder".  I told you I was going to be off today.

I'm also feeling weird about it because C & I did the civil ceremony thing but we didn't invite our family.  We just did it.  And we got some crap for it but we felt it was the best thing to do with C's family living in Ohio and not readily available to come in to town.  So again I feel like it's making us look bad.

I know it's not her intention (I say her because I know my brother and he's not doing any of this planning) but I can't help but feel this way.  It's so dumb of me and petty.  I should be happy for them.  And I am, really.

So last night C & I were talking and I want to do something nice for them.  See, their plan is to do the civil ceremony and then do a dinner at this hotel party room, but we just saw the hotel & party room a couple weeks ago and it wasn't the nicest place ever.  As in, I would NEVER stay at the hotel unless I was flat broke or my company forced me.  I just feel like, it's your wedding, you should have something better.

So I thought if I could convince my brothers and their families plus our parents to each throw in $100-150 then we could come up with about $600 for a very small reception.  The only problem is where to have it.  And if we can actually pull this off in the 5 or so weeks before the wedding.

Friday, February 25, 2011

Vanity, thy name is Jacque

So here I am, 31-years-old and still dealing with acne.  It's not the junior high/high school acne I used to have (Praise Jesus!) but it's annoying considering that I feel I should be past it.  Of course, having a baby and making a drastic climate move didn't help much.  Add working out and daily make-up application to the list and my skin isn't great.  I mean, it's ok skin.  You'd probably never ID me as actually having acne, just little blemishes that pop up once in a while.

4 months ago I started using Proactive in an effort to get clear skin for the wedding.  I figured that it gave me enough time to stop using it and hopefully rectify any issues that popped up if it didn't work.  You should know, before I tell you how it worked, that I have combination skin and that my forehead gets super oily as the day progresses.  Like, wipe it off with a tissue, blinding you with the glare oily.  I hate it.  Conversely, and not helped by the Proactive, my cheeks and the areas around my eyes are dry.

Proactive worked in a way but also didn't work.  It worked in that it mostly stopped the appearance of pimples with white heads.  But it caused me to get painful, cyst-like pimples that hang out under the surface and refuse to go away.  I've got a cluster (cluster F) of them on my jaw line currently that have been hanging out for at least 3 weeks.  They don't hurt anymore but they will not GO AWAY ALREADY!

The other issue I had with Proactive (and this is common if you read the boards) was painful dryness.  The skin around my eyes would burn it was so dry.  And I moisturize, believe me.  Morning and night.

After 4 months, I decided it wasn't really working.  It should have been enough time for things to clear up and I just felt like things should be better than they were.  Rather than dumping even more money into the acne world I decided it was easier to just go straight to a doctor.  (Though, I briefly considered dumping $200 into a Clarisonic system.)

So off to the doctor I went.  I told her it was vain but she told me that it's not vain to want to take care of your skin and to look your best.  (I love my doctor.  Like, I would hang out with her outside of the office because she's SO cool.  But she's my doctor and she's been all up in my hoo-ha and well, it's not going to happen.)  She and I spent about 20 mins talking about what I was using, what I had used, what worked and didn't work, what kind of skin I have, etc.  She made me 2 prescriptions that I plan to pick up tonight and start using.  We're going to give it a month and then evaluate.  I don't even know what they are (one is benzoyl peroxide I think?) but I trust her.

The other tip she gave me was to make a sea salt paste (handful of sea salt, just enough water to make a paste) and to rub it on my face, chest, and back.  And rinse of course.  She said it will do a great job of exfoliating and clearing out the pores.  I actually want to make a batch of it and just scoop some out in the shower.

So there you go!  My review of Proactive (not for me but lots of people love it) and a tip for a homemade scrub.  What beauty regime do you follow??

Thursday, February 24, 2011

No Wedding Talk

I'm not going to talk about the wedding today.  For a couple reasons, the biggest being that I don't have that much to talk about that I haven't already.  I don't make that much progress on a daily basis and once I cover the majority of my projects and stuff then I'm out.  Also, I just don't feel like it.

C turns the big 3-0 this year and I really want to do something for him but with all our trips and showers and parties and stuff it's hard to find time to squeeze it in.  In fact, his actual birthday is the Monday after his Spring Break ends and he's back to school.  It's also the Monday after his Bachelor Party.  Not going to be that great of a day I'm thinking.

And only 5 days after that, Addy turns 2.  Her birthday is on a Saturday this year and I'd like to do something for it.  While I know she won't care or even remember, her birthday party last year was canceled due to my mom's cancer surgery.  We still got together with my side of the family since we were in town and we also had a small celebration in CA with our good friends.  But I had planned on having a whole big thing that never happened.

Anyway, with everything going on I'd like to throw them a low key joint party.  There's a restaurant super close to our house that we sometimes go to that has a little party room.  I'm thinking that on Addy's birthday (that Saturday) we can go there with who ever can attend and have food and celebrate.  Nothing big, but still celebrating these milestones.

I'm always torn with holding a party at a restaurant because we can't afford to pay for dinner for 30-some people but I feel bad asking everyone to pay for their own.  When Addy was baptized, we paid for dinner (which turned out to be pretty affordable) and had everyone pay for their own drinks.  But this time I was thinking maybe we'd pay for a couple pitchers of beer and pop and a bunch of appetizers and have everyone pay for whatever else they wanted?  I want people to have a good time but I don't want to seem cheap.

So I'm torn.  I plan to stop in the restaurant tonight to see if I can talk to someone about it and figure it out.  Maybe they've done parties like this before and can point me in the right direction.

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Another Trip

This planning from a distance stuff is hard!  There's so many things you don't realize you need to plan for and it's not like you can just pop in and check.  I do a TON of emailing to get things settled.

So we're going to Chicago in 3 weeks to meet with some vendors and make sure everything is all set.  We'll meet with 2 different florists and then make a decision about which one, our venue coordinator to talk about decorating and other details I might not have thought about, hopefully a musician (I've got to get on that...), another trip to the pavilion, a rehearsal dinner site, and meeting our wedding coordinator!

That's right, we decided to officially hire the coordinator and as part of the package she is coming to our appointments that weekend to help us out.  It's going to be so nice to have someone on our side for all this.

I just finished making arrangements for someone to watch Addy so we're good to go!  As soon as I get out of work that Friday, we hit the road!  Hopefully traffic and weather will cooperate with us.

As a special treat for you today, I have a picture of me in my dress!  Now, it's not officially MY dress, it from the store where I tried it on.  And I did some crappy editing to add my navy sash so you can see it but this is basically how it will look!  Ignore my face, we were trying to be sneaky since they wouldn't let us actually take pictures...

I love it.  I can't wait to wear it for real!

Also, I have my cousin's shower basically all figured out and I'm proud of myself!  Doing a shower in addition to my own wedding planning was/is a lot to take on but I basically got it under control!  Go me!

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Dear Corey,

Today is 3 years to the day since we met at that wedding.  You were on the dance floor doing the Soulja Boy (this will date us for sure) and I ran up and asked you to show me.  The only part I ever got was the superman part with that side hop thing.

I remember thinking you were cute and having a great time dancing with you.  I also remember that you stole my drink and held it above your head (your way of flirting with me) so I kissed you in hopes it would shock you enough to lower the drink.  I remember thinking that everyone was probably watching but in reality no one was.  Probably.

You were so cute when you had to make sure your cousin got back to his room okay.  You found me and told me very sternly not to GO ANYWHERE so that you could find me again.

I love that we're both science nerds and that our very first date took us to the Science Museum.  I remember that we were so proud of ourselves for wearing our nerdy shirts (your Periodic Table and my Nerds 2^2 Ever).  It was so great to finally see you again in person after 6 weeks of e-mails and phone calls.

I never regretted having to call & e-mail you.  It kept us from being distracted (physically) and let us concentrate on actually building a solid relationship.  We built a foundation and really got to know each other so that when we were together in person, there was never a doubt that I wanted to be with you.

We've settled into our everyday life now of working and raising our daughter but the one thing I love is that we've never stopped talking.  I love hearing something on the radio on the way to work and calling your or making a mental note to tell you later.  (Side note: some spoiled girl was complaining this morning that she got an engagement ring with CZ instead of a diamond and she claimed she was embarrassed to show it off.  Even though the guy promised to buy her a real diamond when he had the money.  I loved you so much I would have taken a rock.)

I know I've said it before, but I want to make sure you know how grateful I am for the sacrifices you've made for our family.  And the thing that makes me the most grateful is that you've never said a word.  One of the things you constantly repeat is "For the greater good" and you do whatever you can to make sure our family is taken care of.  And I love you for that.

So today, and 88 days from now, I am publicly declaring my love for you.  You are my rock and my best friend and I am proud to have you by my side for the next 60 (or so) years.

Love, Jacque

Monday, February 21, 2011

Wedding Project Weekend

I swore this weekend I was going to start working on projects for the wedding because as of today we are THREE MONTHS OUT and I am not freaking out (right...) but I don't want to get to a point where I feel rushed because I didn't actually do the things I was planning to do.  So we hit up a thrift store and bought some silly hats and an empty picture frame (so people can pretend they're in pictures in the pictures?) and I set to work and accomplished making exactly 3 mustaches on dowels.

Well, it's a start.

Side note: I had my first wedding nightmare this weekend.  I dreamt that it was finally wedding day and somehow I forgot because I was busy with something else.  And as a result, NOTHING was ready.  The ballroom wasn't set up, the favors weren't done, etc.  And the worst part was that in my panic I didn't notice until the last minute that my hair & make up people never showed up.  So I had to do my own make up and my hair was a complete frizz ball disaster with some stupid flower wreath in it.  And I didn't have time to fix it.

We also had a skype meeting with the potential coordinator yesterday and she is a sweetheart!  C is all for hiring her so if he's giving the go ahead then we are doing it!  It's going to be so nice to just hand someone my plans and all my vendor contracts and say "Make it so" and then bounce around in La La Land on the day of my wedding.

Now, me being the Type-A that I am, it won't really be like that.  But it will be nice to know that there's someone on my side making sure all my visions come to life.  Its nice to know that I won't have to run and check the ballroom to make sure everything got set out like it should.  I'll be in the ballroom because I want to see it all together not because I'm worried that it didn't.

The other thing that was nice was that she told us that we're pretty on the ball with everything.  That was really nice to hear because I constantly think I'm behind with this whole thing.  She's not planning for us, she's stepping in the day of and executing.  So it's still up to me to put it together.

The only other thing that happened this weekend was that our pianist for the ceremony pulled out on us.  She thinks it's too hard to make it all happen with it being outdoor and never having seen the set up and we've never hooked up power to the pavilion before.  I understand but I'm disappointed.  The search continues.

Friday, February 18, 2011

Thin 'n That

This will be kind of random as I brain dump what's going around in my noggin.

We went to JoAnn Fabric last night and purchased black felt, some backer stuff (I'm so not a crafter), some wooden dowels and some crazy glue.  Grand total: $18.65.  When we got home I printed out a template of mustaches that also included 50s style cat eye glasses and a monocle.  The plan is to work on those over the weekend.

I also want to start hitting Goodwills and Dollar Stores looking for silly hats and picture frames that I can paint to use as photo booth props.  Oh, and real glasses and feather boas.  I have an entire list of photo booth props I want to get.  It's going to be nuts.

We are planning a trip out to Chicago to do some wedding planning and finalize some details in a few weeks.  Last time we went we got so much done but now there's another list of things we need to deal with.  Like, meeting with a florist, the musician I've been talking to, our photographer, the potential DOC, etc.  Discussing decorating options for the ballroom with the venue coordinator.

Speaking of which, I've given up on the strings of lights.  Mark made me see the light (no pun intended) and I let them go.  Instead, I'm focusing on paper lanterns.  I've found a lot of tutorials online about how to light them and I think I could easily scatter them around the room with varying sizes and I could even have white and blue ones to reflect our color theme.  Some fishing wire to hang them and we'd be good to go!  I think I can accept that.

As of Monday we will have exactly 3 months to go!  Crazy.  There's so much to do still!

Thursday, February 17, 2011


I e-mailed a therapist about pre-marital counseling yesterday.  I know you're probably thinking, "Isn't it a little late for that since you're already married?" and, "What's wrong?"

But the answer is nothing's wrong and I want to keep it that way.

Back in September when C & I decided to have our little civil ceremony, part of our deal was that we would do pre-marital counseling at some point before May.  It's something I've wanted us to do since we got engaged.  And C was on board with it so we went ahead and got married.

The thing about C & I is that we never fight.  Honestly.  We're just one of those couples that talk through it instead of having an all out fight.  I'm not saying either way is right or wrong and how couples choose to handle disputes is between them but C is the son of kind of a therapist and he's really big on talking.  On one hand it's kind of refreshing to find a man who's actually willing to discuss his feelings instead of shutting down, but on the other it's annoying when he wants to talk about things and I just want to stew for a bit.

But we both realize that our relationship has always been going at the speed of light and as much as we love each other how much do we still have to learn about one another?  We jumped into this thing so quickly I worry that down the road we may come upon something we don't know how to handle and we are not prepared for.

I'm not so naive that I think we're never going to fight or that we'll never have an actual screaming match.  We will, it will come.  But when it happens I'd like to be prepared.  I want to take the steps now to prepare for our future together so there never comes a time when something is too great for us to handle.

I figure marriage counselors will bring up topics we've never thought to discuss.  Things we haven't talked about but we'll probably be surprised at each other's answers when they come up.

It can only make us stronger in my opinion.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011


C & I always talk about a honeymoon but have never actually taken any steps towards planning one.

At first we talked about going to Seattle for a week because I've always wanted to visit Seattle.  We talked about staying in Seattle for 3-4 days and then making a run for the border to Vancouver for another 3-4 days.  But neither of us have ever been to either city and I'm not entirely sure what you do in each.  Especially Vancouver.  Plus, to actually get to Vancouver, I'd have to get my ass on the ball and get my new passport in my new name.  Other things I'm not sure about include public transportation or the need for a car.

Then we talked about a resort in the Caribbean to just relax.  To get some time away and relax after everything with the wedding and stuff.  It's really tempting.  We definitely wouldn't need a car there; we'd practically never leave the resort probably.

Then we talked about going to NYC, which is the opposite of going to the Caribbean but whatever.  C loves NYC and wants so badly to go there again.  We've been checking out relatively affordable places on and it would be do-able.  Definitely no car needed there.  Lots of things to see and do.  And it's another place on my bucket list (Seattle too).

Then today I started looking at listings for Savannah, GA on vrbo.  There's some places on there that are super tempting and affordable and seem to be in good locations.  C stayed there one time when he was supposed to go on a cruise that got delayed due to a hurricane and kind of fell in love with it.  It seems like it would almost be the best of both worlds, lots to see and do (and eat!) but kind of a sleepy town where we could relax.  (Doesn't everything seem kind of slower when you think of GA, like, just not rushed...)  I'm not sure about the need for a car there, it seems like there are plenty of trolleys and "pedicabs" (bicycle cabs?) and tons of things to walk to.  Unless we wanted to go to the beach (Tybee Island?), I'm not sure how we could get there without a car.  

Another thing to take into consideration is the weather/time of year.  We'd most likely be going in June, after school gets out for C.  I have no idea what the weather is like in any of these places in June and I'd need to research some before deciding.  Plus, who wants to go tropical in June?  Save it for the dead of winter when it's -10 outside...


C & I have never really celebrated Valentine's Day.  With our "Date-aversary" on Feb. 22 there was really no reason to.  I'd still like to do something for him but seeing as how I've managed to get his cold and lost most of my voice I think he's SOL.

I used the weekend to talk to C about our wedding and get excited about it again.  I think it's going to be cyclical for me.  Since I can't string lights I'm considering other lighting options.  Like somehow getting some trees in planters and placing them around the room with lights in them.  Or fake street lamps.  Or C's suggestion of coat racks with lights <-- not seriously.

Or even just using more lighting elements in our centerpieces.  There are some great centerpiece photos out there of just candles.  Or just letting it go and accepting that the lighting may not look the way I want it too.  I mean, aren't there bigger things to worry about than some lighting? 

This weekend we're going to start focusing on our little projects by going to Michael's to look for wooden signs and dowels and probably JoAnn Fabric for stiff felt so we can start on all the little props for our photo booth.  I think that getting some of these things in order will help make me feel like we're making progress.  We have just over 3 months, we really need to get on this stuff.

We also need to plan our trip to Chicago to finalize things with our venue.  We have some decisions to make and I want them made before I feel like time is slipping away from me.  Like, the pianist we've been talking to and do we want to hire her for the ceremony.  And flowers.  And a rehearsal dinner location.

Posts will pick up at some point.  We're supposed to receive our invitation proof in the mail and that will be pretty exciting for me!

Friday, February 11, 2011

Too Much

I had a stupid whiny post up that I decided to delete.  Basically I was trying to say that I struggle every day with how to make my wedding really feel like us.

And I'm not sure that I have much of a definition of "us" other than 2 science nerds in love.  Is that enough?

I guess this is really just a blog to remind myself to focus on the things that matter to me and to C and make those the take aways.  I heard a phrase yesterday that said, "If at the end of the day you are married to each other, then the day was perfect.  It's all that matters."

Thursday, February 10, 2011


This has turned out to be a couple of frustrating days for wedding planning.  But first I want to say thanks for the comments.  I didn't mean to come off all depressed and suicidal over a couple pictures.  I know that some of them turned out good, I was just hoping for a higher ratio of good to bad pictures.  Maybe someday I'll share a couple of the "bad" ones so you can see what I'm talking about.  I think I seriously look pregnant in one.  But C definitely likes them and that's really what matters.

Side note: he said he knew what I was up to the whole time so I apparently wasn't as sneaky as I thought.  He was very surprised that I managed to sneak out his shirt and tie without him knowing and I think some of the outfits surprised him too.

Anyway, I got an e-mail from the venue coordinator yesterday telling me that after some thought he's not sure that I can have the sparklers after all and by the way, strings of light stretching 75+ feet will be too heavy and bow and potentially cause issues and perhaps I should just think about stringing lights in the balcony railings but not hanging or strung across the room. 

Here's a picture of the ballroom:

Those "balconies" that you see along the side are on both sides but you can't stand on them, they're just for show.  Looking at that picture now I guess maybe they are lower than I thought.  I just, want my reception to be more than some hotel ballroom.

The only thing that is still keeping me happy is oddly the one thing I won't be attending, my cocktail hour on Bourbon Street.

I think that it looks really cool with the fake facades and street lamps and stuff.  And we'll have a strolling magician to keep people entertained during.  We'll have masks and beads available for people too and I think it's going to be a lot of fun.

There are things that I can't change about my wedding even if I wanted to and I need to come to terms with that.  It's still going to be a great party and who's really going to notice that there aren't any lights strung up besides me.

As for the sparklers, I'm going to fight that one.  They will make an appearance even if I have to fake an exit later in the night.  I'm doing it!

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

A Few Good Pics

These are the pictures that I am willing to share.  A whopping 6.  No trench ones because I decided that I plain don't like them.  These are the few that I feel turned out cute or sexy and what I was going for all along.

This Just In

So I got something in the mail yesterday... the pics from my boudoir shoot already!  Talk about fast!

And I already gave them to C.  I just decided that there was no way I could hold out for 4 months (101 days today!) and I wanted to share them.  No fun keeping them all to myself.  Plus, I can't decide if making a book is really the way to go.  I don't know, do I want these on paper?  For anyone to potentially find?  Like my children?  I just am wrestling with that right now.

Anyway, C liked them but I'm having mixed feelings.  I don't have them to share right now, nor did she make the online gallery like she said she would so you'll have to wait until tonight hopefully to see some.  And I'm only sharing a few.

I just feel like they could have done a better job telling me to suck in my stomach or posing me.  I mean, I had a baby and do not have a flat stomach but I could look like I do.  And there was so much going on that I couldn't remember to do all of it.  And some of the photos just plain are not flattering.  I hate my legs, I think they're stubby and short and there's like 2 pics of just my legs.  There's only about 3 pictures with the chair and the rest are just me standing there.

I also feel like some of the pictures that I was looking forward to seeing didn't make the cut and I have no idea why.  There were some really cute ones using the chair and those are barely included.  Instead, there's a picture of me wearing the trench where you can actually see my nipple (not intended) and how is that better?

I know I'm my own worst critic, but part of me hoped that they'd turn out amazing.  I know that she's not a miracle worker but I feel like they could have been better.  Now, considering that I paid $100?  I suppose that's actually pretty good work for that low of a fee.

Some of them did turn out very cute or very sexy and I'm happy with those.  I'll do it again but I'll work out more first or something.  Or fast for a bit.  Or time it better for when I'm not about to get my period.  

I didn't mean this to turn into a rant but I'm trying to be honest.  I'll share some pics later when I'm at home and actually have the disc.  And if/when I do it again, I'll book a session that's all mine and not rushed with a photographer who can photograph in the most flattering way.

Tuesday, February 8, 2011


In a mere 2 weeks, C & I will probably celebrate an anniversary for the last time.  3 year ago, on that day, we met and our lives changed forever, for the better.  Funny to think back on how a chance meeting, a drunken one at that, led to where we are today.

I'm trying to decide how to honor that day and also what happens to our anniversaries after May?  We met on Feb. 22, we had our first "date" over a weekend at the beginning of April.  C proposed on July 4th, and we were legally married on Sept. 18th. 

We've never celebrated our first "date" nor the day we got engaged.  There never seemed a reason to.  But we have celebrated our anniversary every year so far (all 2 of them!).  We haven't been married long enough to celebrate our Sept. date yet.

I feel like we should do something special for this "last" anniversary, but with all the wedding planning I'm at a loss as to what.  Plus, it's on a Tuesday this year so that makes it more difficult.  We could go away for a night but there's Addy to think of and even though we're closer to family here there's not as many options for childcare.

So instead, we'll probably stay home and we'll eat a nice dinner after Addy goes to bed so we can enjoy some time with eachother.  

Do you celebrate all your anniversaries?

Monday, February 7, 2011

Doing It For Me

You'll hear a lot of brides in the planning stages bemoan the Wedding Industry for "making" them do things or pressuring them in to doing or having this or that.  I, personally, think these brides are full of crap and just don't have the cajones to do the things they want to do.

The details in my wedding like the cake that I "have" to have is all my doing.  Yes, the cake is there because of tradition but the damn thing is going to look the way I want it to look and taste the way I want it to taste (hopefully).  

My biggest pet-peeve is brides blaming media and industries for forcing an image on us of brides that are fit and beautiful and forcing us into the gym to achieve that look.


I have been hitting the gym with semi-regularity and you know why?  Not because a magazine or blog told me to.  Because I want to look the best I possibly can when standing up in front of roughly 150 people to express my love for C.  Because I want to look the best I can in the photos that will grace our house for the next 50 years.  Because I want to feel good about myself.

I suppose in a way you could call it peer pressure.  That thinking of all those people looking at me is really what's doing it but it's for me.  I want people to be amazed at how good I look.  To wonder if I really did give birth or if we stole Addy from somewhere instead.  

Is it conceited?  Yeah, it is.  I won't deny it.  But it's for me.

Friday, February 4, 2011


As much as it may seem like I have everything under control, sometimes I wonder.  How will I make sure the ballroom is set up the way that I want it?  I can only say and draw so much and my drawing skills aren't really that great.  Who will give the musician at the ceremony the queue that it's time to start?  Who will usher the guests back to the hotel so we have the pavilion available for pictures?  Who will queue the DJ to start the entrances?  Who will make sure all the chairs get taken down and stacked after the ceremony?

I know that these things could be handled and they'll probably work themselves out in the end, but I also know that I am my biggest critic and I'd focus on the fact that there was a huge pause in the music while we figured out who was supposed to go or what was going on.  

I'm seriously entertaining the thought of a DOC (Day Of Coordinator).  Someone that I'll meet with before the wedding but will only show up the day of to make sure these things are taken care of so I can focus on getting ready and getting married.

I recently attended a wedding where there was no DOC and I felt awful for the bride that she wasn't able to fully relax because she knew when it was all done, someone still had to tear everything down and pack it up.  And she was responsible for making sure it happened.  She wasn't up on a ladder or anything but she was close.

I know that I can't be everywhere at once and I also know what kind of a control freak I can be.  I figure my choices are to use a friend or hire someone.  If I use a friend, it has to be someone that I know won't mind helping out, that I can trust to get things the way I want them.  If I hire someone, they have to do that for me anyway.

I found a coordinator for $500 for the day and I'm seriously considering it.  Is $500 worth the peace of mind that I would get?  Maybe.  I'll have to talk this one over with C.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

You Light Up My Life

After yesterday's post, I decided lighting should be on the Must Do list.  So I searched the web and finally found a solution.  28.5 foot long strings of 100 lights (not globe lights, but they'll do) that can be strung 3 long for $6 each.  My venue is 85 feet in length (28.5*3=85.5 Wow) so I can do 6 criss-cross lights for a mere $108.  I told C that I could do the lighting for less than $200 so I got the go ahead there.

My only issues now are how to power them and they don't recommend stringing more than 3 together so each string will have to be plugged in to it's own outlet.  Without being able to actually climb up on the balconies to see, I don't know if this is actually possible.  So now I need to e-mail our coordinator to find out.  He's been pretty accommodating though so he will probably try to make it work.

Other lighting elements I'm trying to include are the wrapped table numbers.  Something that looks a lot like this.  I'm pretty sure I can pull this off with minimal effort but I've never done it before.  I'd also like to line the stage in the ballroom with candles but I'm not sure that's safe since it's right next to the dance floor and that just doesn't seem like the best combination.  Though, I can always invest in battery operated tea lights and save myself some potential fires I suppose.

And hanging lanterns would also be beautiful but again, fire hazard not to mention head injuries.  

Maybe if we dumped the open bar I wouldn't have to worry about these things.  But then I would have to worry about people not showing up...  

PS.  Speaking of things showing up, I'm officially not pregnant.  For those who were dying to know.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

The Wants

While yesterday's post was about the things I HAVE to do, today's is about the things I WANT to do.

For instance, our photography package includes a second shooter who will be manning a photo booth for us during the reception.  It's a very basic set up, just some professional lighting and a backdrop.  And they'll provide the backdrop for $100.  BUT, what I really want to do is buy some fun fabric and make a backdrop!  I think it would be easy enough to construct a stand out of PVC pipe that can be taken apart for tranporting and some fabric.

C thinks it might be a lot of work but I think it's completely do-able and will be really fun.

Another thing that I am completely lusting after is cafe lights to string across our venue.  How romantic and lovely does this look?  So I thought, "They're just lights, how bad could it be?"  $500 for 6 strings of lights bad!  What?!?  But, oh my gosh, I see pictures of other weddings and I want it SO BADLY.  But I have absolutely no idea how to find it for anything less than the $500 and there's just no way I can justify spending that much on lighting.

I did find one alternative that's basically Christmas lights but they come in 32-ft strands and I could get enough to cross the room 6 times for only $180+ tax.  The only problem is that I'd need to connect 3 strands so there'd be obvious lengths where the plugs were but maybe I could cover those spots with paper lanterns?

Another "want" is cutesy signs to mark the path to the pavilion for the ceremony.  I do want to mark the path, but I probably don't need a ton of signage or effort to do so.  I'm sure we could get away with posterboard and balloons but wouldn't it be nice to have wooden signs?  Holy crap though, I'm pretty sure C would murder me if I spent that much money on a silly sign.  So now I want to make them myself...

Where do I think I'm going to find the time for all this?

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

To Do

While I tend to act like I've got this thing under control, there are a lot of loose ends that I need to tie up.  The big things are done (find somewhere to do it, get our major vendors booked, get us outfitted, etc.) there are a lot of little details that need to be done.

For instance: I have yet to even speak to a florist.  I have no idea what my flowers should look like, what a reasonable budget for flowers even is and who will be providing said flowers.  Having family help is out of the question since we'll be in unknown territory so I'll have to suck it up and pay someone to arrange and deliver flowers to me.  I barely even know what flowers I like or what's in bloom.  I'm somewhat prepared to be completely taken advantage of in this arena.

Another item is Addy.  I have no idea what she's going to wear, if she needs something for her hair, how she'll actually participate in the ceremony, etc.  I do know who's going to watch her the night of for us but other than that I have no clue.  Will she drive down with us 3 days before the wedding?  Should someone else do that for us?  Will she sleep with us up until our wedding day?  Where will she be while I'm getting ready?  Will she be able to walk down an aisle without completely losing it?  I don't know.

I have barely broached the idea of having people bake cookies for us.  I need to get on the ball there and start asking people to bake.  We have yet to figure out if we're even going to have Out of Town bags (OOT bags) let alone what should go in them.  Chicago stuff?  MN stuff?  A mix of both?  Water & Aspirin for sure.

And another one that I simply can't believe we haven't done, we've never tasted a cake!  What the?!  That's one that needs to be fixed ASAP!